Pama Kondo (in yellow) talks with family members and friends in her courtyard as her daughter Pai gets her hair styled for her wedding. Pai, 18, will be married today to her first cousin, Baba Nientao, who has come back from the Ivory Coast where he has lived with his family since he was 12 years old. The arranged marriage was revealed to Pai this morning, as is the custom, and she is quiet as part of the ritualized mourning for her lost youth.